Even
though my father passed away several years ago I’m surprised how often I think
about him. Something happens during the
normal course of my day, and it triggers a flashback of him. It wasn’t a conscious decision to think about
him, but rather some random thing happens and instantaneously I’m transported
back in time forty years hearing my dad say or do something. It happens all the time. Does that happen to you?
My
father in many ways was a good role model.
He also had his faults but as time passes the good memories of him are
winning out and the not so pleasant memories are fading. I hope that’s what happens with my two adult
children when I’m dead and gone.
As
I said my dad was a good role model, but he was a lousy teacher. I don’t ever recall him ever trying to teach
me an important life lesson. He just
lived what he believed. At the time, I
didn’t understand the importance or appreciate what I was witnessing. It was just my dad saying or doing what he
always said or did. It was nothing
special, or so it seemed. It was just
vintage Dad. But the older I get the
more I appreciate the values that he lived.
So
what life lessons did I learn from my father?
LIVE
WELL WITHIN YOUR MEANS
Growing
up my family lived in a very middle class neighborhood. The neighbor on our left was a grocer and the
neighbor on our right owned a gas station.
Although my mom drove new cars, I can’t ever recall Dad driving anything
but used pickups. A vacation to us was
visiting our relatives, certainly not going to a destination resort. We lived quite modestly. It wasn’t until I was in college that it
dawned on me that my parents were financially well off. Over the years there had been hints of my
parent’s wealth but I hadn’t been able to put the pieces together. That changed when Dad, who owned his own CPA
practice, sold his business and retired at the age of 50. He lived quite comfortably for the next 30+
years off the income generated from his investments.
TREAT
EVERYONE EQUALLY
After
retiring, my dad spent most of his days working on his tree farms. Having grown up in the rolling farmland of
Iowa he was in awe of the beauty of the forests in the Pacific Northwest. About ten years before he retired he bought a
parcel of logged over timberland and spent his weekends nursing the land back
to health. He was very comfortable
working alongside loggers, foresters, and other blue collar workers associated
with the forest products industry. And
they were equally accepting of him as one of their own.
I’m
not sure why (it’s a question I wish I had asked him) but he was politically
well connected in Oregon state politics.
I remember back in the sixties he was a pallbearer at a funeral where a
fellow pallbearer was Mark Hatfield, the then governor of Oregon. Dad never showed preferential treatment to
his wealthy friends. Those in a lower
socio economic class were treated no differently than the rich and powerful. He
treated everyone with the same friendly Jimmy Stewart like manner.
PUT
TOGETHER WIN/WIN AGREEMENTS
Dad
didn’t believe in win at all costs. He
proposed agreements that were fair for both parties, not just for him. He had no problem leaving a little bit on the
table if it meant getting the deal done sooner rather than later and with both
parties satisfied. Sometimes the person
he was negotiating with would attempt to take advantage of his desire to strike
a fair deal and would respond back with some unrealistic and unjustified
counter offer. You see, not everyone
plays by the same set of rules. But for
the most part, people intuitively understood that he was proposing an agreement
that was fair to both sides and they respected him for doing so.
Sometimes
life’s most important lessons are better absorbed not through formal
instruction but by the consistent actions of a role model over a lifetime.
May
God richly bless you and your family during the holiday season. Merry Christmas!
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Lessons from My Father
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Four Common Mistakes That Make Financing Your CRE Difficult, If Not Impossible
I’m surprised how often I am asked to find financing for a
property that for one reason or another is obviously not financeable. It’s as if the borrower wants the lender to forgo
the use of common sense. I’m going to
let you in on a little secret: IT ISN’T GOING TO HAPPEN!!! Anyone who is at all knowledgeable about
commercial real estate lending realizes that lenders are risk averse. They are not in business to take on any more
risk than is absolutely necessary.
So if you want to either refinance your property or to sell
your property there things you must do a year or two before financing is needed
to get the property to the point where I call it, “lender friendly.” Not doing so will likely make it much more
difficult, if not impossible, in getting a lender interested. Here are four common mistakes: